Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Where are the dads?

Kerr, who flutters down the runway in a cool-shade blue lace low-cut bra and high-cut brief, sexy sandals with thigh-high ribbons and the coveted wings, took comfort in knowing her family was in the crowd, and winked at her mom and dad.
"My mom didn't mind seeing me up there in my underwear ," Kerr says. "I am 25 and it's all very lovely and like a costume. It's beautiful and romantic ... it's not like standing up there in my everyday underwear. It's a theatrical show and everyone is there to have a good time."

The above was from a Yahoo! article about what Victoria Secret models do to get ready for a live fashion show on CBS. I'm not even going to ask why we need to see this on TV...

I am going to ask where are the dads of this generation? Was Kerr's dad uncomfortable in the audience? Not that Shane would approve of his daughter being on stage in underwear, but if we were to find ourselves in that situation, I can tell you, we'd both be squirming.

In public, I've often seen whole families or dads & daughters together and wondered if dad got to weigh in on her low cut, see through shirt. Maybe he doesn't care, maybe he's overruled, I don't know...

I really wish men would stand up (and women would sit down!) and take their roles. Call me old fashioned, but I think there's a huge lack of decency in our society, and most of it could be alleviated with some daddies who put their foot down and clothes on their daughters (and sometimes their wives!).

How's that for a soapbox? Wonder if I just lost my 6 readers...

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Here, here! I couldn't agree more. You can feel good and look good without having to show your 'stuff' to the world.

Leah

Luke said...

Well, it'd be hard for you to say something that would get me to stop reading. Even if I completely disagreed with you, I'd just pipe up with my two cents [smile].

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Umm...

Oh my.

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Modesty is a pet peeve of mine... the common "Christian" take on modesty, that is. Now, I'm not completely disagreeing with you here, but I'll start by challenging one idea:

"...I think there's a huge lack of decency in our society, and most of it could be alleviated with some [covering up]."

I agree that decency may not be were it has been in the past, and that it would be good to be a less promiscuous society. But modesty is culturally and situationally defined. Thus, what you wear to the beach is inappropriate for church, and what you wear to a funeral is inappropriate for a summer barbecue.

So, while, yes, Victoria Secret "fashion" shows don't need to be on TV--as in that context they are "soft" pornography--at the same time, Miranda is right: In the context of her participation in the show, she was "merely" wearing a costume that fit within the context.

Grr... I've written chapters on this subject. I really need to get my act together and get another draft of my book done.

This is an important topic.

My two cents for now. I've still got a pocket full of change, but I don't have time to dish it all out here [smile].

~Luke

Ps. [laughing] Yes, Ms. Kerr and I are on a "first name basis" [smirk]... well, we would be if she knew I existed.

Jennifer said...

You haven't lost me.

D Unstoppable Mom said...

I do agree with Luke, in that she was wearing a costume. When you watch tv you have to be aware of what is on...if you see Victoria's Secret in the title, you don't watch if you find it offensive. I do believe that there are enough cable stations out there and there could be a better "theater" for this show. Let the networks entertain us with real melodrama!

D Unstoppable Mom said...

I do agree with Luke, in that she was wearing a costume. When you watch tv you have to be aware of what is on...if you see Victoria's Secret in the title, you don't watch if you find it offensive. I do believe that there are enough cable stations out there and there could be a better "theater" for this show. Let the networks entertain us with real melodrama!

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Wendy said...

Thanks for the input, Luke. I'd like to read what else you have on the subject-with a house full of girls, this is an ongoing topic of thought for me.

Your friend Miranda was in costume, that's true. I'm trying to imagine one of our girls trying out for a play. If she were to find out the costume was extra revealing, I would hope that she would decline the part or if appropriate, work out an alternate costume. I don't think it's okay to be immodest and justify it as a costume. Let me know if I missed your point and made a mess of it all :)

I also agree about modesty being culturally determined. I don't black out Usborne books, lol.

The Tarr Family said...

You go girl!! I feel the same way...

Anonymous said...

I agree. I don't think men or women need to be covered from head to toe, but I can't imagine being up there in front of my parents. If I ever have a daughter, I hope she would feel the same way about herself.