tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post448151121145941250..comments2023-02-24T02:09:19.185-08:00Comments on All Girl Homeschool: Forgiveness YesterdayWendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06625366084846075167noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post-52156021293294267392009-01-16T16:03:00.000-08:002009-01-16T16:03:00.000-08:00My mom & dad divorced over 40 years ago. He wa...My mom & dad divorced over 40 years ago. He was unfaithful and left her high and dry with 6 kids. Over the yrs he apologized several times to us kids (but not mom) but every time it was with excuses of how it wasn't ALL his fault. My dad began a true relationship with God about two years ago. Last yr when my mom was in the hospital he came to see her and asked her forgiveness...without excuses. She told him she had already forgiven him (although it hadn't been long before!). They had a good visit, comfortably talking in a way they hadn't in decades(they are 78 & 83). Family get togethers have much more joy now that the bitterness and blame are gone. They were both at my house on Christmas day. They were laughing, talking about good memories and even talked about their spiritual life. It was cool! I can just imagine how much lighter their hearts must feel. :) Side note-The nurse in my mom's room, who had overheard it all, asked how she was able to forgive him, she was going through something similar only fresher. My mom was able to witness to her how Jesus had softened her heart...talk about God's timing! This has to be something we can't do without help from above...Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10281096306960921502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post-90371332384148089942009-01-14T17:22:00.000-08:002009-01-14T17:22:00.000-08:00if we can't forgive ourselves or someone else who ...if we can't forgive ourselves or someone else who has wronged us, how can we hope to be forgiven by the Father? All that ugly stuff WILL be forgiven by Him, therefore we must forgive the trival "human" stuff! Took me a long time to get that point!<BR/>Always need a reminder though!<BR/>Thanks...https://www.blogger.com/profile/15093885785237646772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post-1088165188787027072009-01-14T02:24:00.000-08:002009-01-14T02:24:00.000-08:00Wendy,I too have struggled with forgiveness. Forg...Wendy,<BR/><BR/>I too have struggled with forgiveness. Forgiving others that have wronged me and forgiving myself for making lousy decisions in life. As Luke said, it is a process. There are no short cuts along this road.<BR/><BR/>Like Jennifer, I am struggling to teach this to my children. Especially my oldest, as she comes to grips with the divorce and who her father is. There is no magic formula. It must be modeled.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for being open.<BR/><BR/>LeahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post-92229959070298769322009-01-13T10:39:00.000-08:002009-01-13T10:39:00.000-08:00Luke~it is a process, for sure and I'm glad yo...Luke~it is a process, for sure and I'm glad you see progress in your life. I have a long standing situation in which I feel I've forgiven, yet when things come back up, the pain clouds it all. Yet, like you, I'm trying.<BR/><BR/>Jennifer~good for you for trying with the kids, it is hard to get it through. I think the best way to teach them is for them to see you forgive others. <BR/><BR/>Scott~you touched on a VERY important and hard part of forgiveness. I've worked with women who aborted and the hardest part for them was the forgiveness of self. I'm going to think & pray about this and probably post on it soon. Thanks for bringing it up.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06625366084846075167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post-49104435519494156132009-01-13T08:31:00.000-08:002009-01-13T08:31:00.000-08:00I love the post...I wonder what the comparison is ...I love the post...<BR/><BR/>I wonder what the comparison is to forgiving yourself for something? That same unforgiveness affects everything in their life and even lets the bitterness and anger out to other people...especially since there's not another specific person...an object...to take those frustrations out on.<BR/><BR/>I mean, it seems like when the wall finally comes down between people, it comes down just as you said...quickly and with a lot of tears. How does that process take place for a person with unforgiveness towards themselves? ...and what can trigger such a "coming down" of that wall with yourself when you can't just pick up the phone and call yourself? ...and what can those that love that person holding those feelings about themselves do?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02199331431207642819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post-80898841370517900092009-01-13T08:29:00.000-08:002009-01-13T08:29:00.000-08:00Such a true post - thanks for that. The hardest f...Such a true post - thanks for that. <BR/><BR/>The hardest for me is teaching the children to be forgiving. It's in our human nature to NOT be, and they don't quite understnad the concept of forgiveness yet. Well, Garrett and Christin DO, but the heart is not yet willing. Emily is still learning.SuperMom Blueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15758565224646606614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866718553889782693.post-2250769749605061682009-01-13T07:28:00.000-08:002009-01-13T07:28:00.000-08:00Excellent post.It has been a long road for me and ...Excellent post.<BR/><BR/>It has been a long road for me and forgiveness and release of bitterness. And, honestly, I've still got a long way to go yet. But you are absolutely right: Bitterness and lack of forgiveness eats away your life. I've been there and done that.<BR/><BR/>Ugh.<BR/><BR/>I'm very thankful for the redeeming power of God to return what has been stolen [smile].<BR/><BR/> ~LukeLuke Holzmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07799632321310461828noreply@blogger.com